Commercial Hypnofetishism

I got some pretty good read time in this article. Mondo Bizarre, *giggles* I am happy to see my fetish becoming more main stream; at least in the bizarre areas!

I welcome comments on this article written by Dom Passantino about commercial hypno-fetishism on the net today.

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I've Moved to Paltalk

Greetings! I know I haven't posted here in what seems like forever, now that my life has settled down [SOME] I hope to begin posting regularly again

I wanted to announce here in blogger that I have moved my Erotic Hypnosis Chatting to Paltalk Chat Network. While I do miss IRC, paltalk is a very nice audio/video chat format and pretty user friendly.

I have created a Chat Room there: DesiresDungeon FemDom Hypnosis

I also support and promote Erotic Hypnosis Revisited which is also on Paltalk, created and managed by Lady Izzabelle. Both rooms are located in the Adult>Playground section. So, if you are interested in Erotic Hypnosis as a fetish or deeply immersed in the D/s lifestyle you are sure to find a "Hypno" Room that feeds your fantasies and fills you with curiosity to know and experience M-O-R-E *wink* Erotic Hypnosis Revisited [EHR] is a re-vamping of the old Erotic Hypnosis Room in Yahoo, back in the day... before the room became very well known and over run with bots, trolls, and booting. So, if you remember 'the day' you will feel right at home and among old friends in EHR. My new Room DesiresDungeon is very much about FemDom Hypnosis and embraces the D/s lifestyle using Hypnosis as a primary means of control. Sound Yummy?? Stop by and see me in either Room on Paltalk.

I hope to be putting more time and energy into my Chat Room and have slated October 27th & 28th as the 'official' dungeon warming party... expect things to get HOT! I still moderate my yahoo desiresdungeon FemDom Hypnosis Group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/desiresdungeon
Please feel free to join the Group and keep up-to-date on all the happenings in Desire's Dungeon. MP3 files of regular room trances are frequently uploaded to the group and I am very excited about LadyRuetha hosting her HypnoSubmission 101 in the Dungeon this Saturday nite: Sept 23rd @ 10pm EDT. I strongly encourage A/anyone new to BDSM to attend if possible!

More later... I PROMISE!

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FemDom Hypnosis

Power exchange is the fire that drives a Hypnofetish, BDSM/FemDom is a practice; a lifestyle and outlook of interacting in intimate relationships. Hypnotic control takes on many dimensions of surrendering physical as well as mental will. Mental aspects of the D/s Power Exchange are very erotic for the hypnokink. Control/surrender is taken to an entirely new playing field. Much is possible over time with FemDom Hypnosis. As trust is established and encouraged to grow, Female Supremacy and other forms of D/s are able to flourish and blossom as the submissive or slave feels continually safer to give over more and more control on deeper and deeper levels.

If you find the idea of FemDom Hypnosis intrigues you, surf the net and check out all the information that is out there about this increasingly popular fetish. A quick Google of "HypnoDomme" will pull you up thousands of pages of FemDom Hypnosis information and Pro Domme websites.

The Erotic Hypnosis Community Pages is a great community site with many links to great hypnosis information and a growing directory of Erotic Hypnosis, BDSM & FemDom links. Check out these pages and get to know the Adult global community members.

Not everyone is sure how to proceed as they begin to explore submission and what that means to them. Don't call yourself a submissive if you are actually looking for 'Cyber', do E/everyone a favor and just be honest about yourself. Submission often includes cyber this is true, but true FemDom/submission is also about Control, on various interconnected levels, and the surrendering of responsibilities, choices, and often times... Even thoughts. Submission is not about getting sex the way you want it, contrary to the way many 'submissives' behave.

To the prospective subject/submissive:

I encourage you to be polite and respectful when communicating with a Dominant, remember first impressions make a strong impact. Read profiles & homepages when posted on the net by the Dominant, so you do not ask questions repeatedly that are clearly listed [to avoid such redundant communications]. Pro Domme's have many people contacting them daily, stating age and interests over and over is really a waste of a busy woman's time, or... In cyber slang RTFM.

If you are really not sure what you are looking for, say so. Don't try to appear wiser than you are or the very reverse happens. Realize the very best way to receive the things you desire are to seek them honestly and to be reasonably open about what you seek. Educate yourself on the topic or fetish you are interested in. Don't go to a Dominant and expect them to answer all your basic questions when the internet is at your fingertips. Seek out those you respect and admire when you need imput.

It's my humble opinion a sincere submissive seeks to be pleasing in everyway, thinks nothing of doing eons footwork to be prepared to serve well, and understands their opinion matters when it is asked for or limits are involved. Such submissives are happy and content in their role and often for the first time in their lives... Feel free.

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Erotic Hypnosis Chatrooms and Forums

When discovering an interest in hypnosis, erotic hypnosis, and mind control, of course more knowledge; and perhaps experiences are sought. Logic would dictate interested subjects would speak with a prospective Hypnotist at great length before taking the plunge. Not everyone is logical so I feel compelled to toss out some sound advice. The Hypnotist inducing the trance will virtually be dancing around in your mind. Common sense is prudent. Ask questions, and if you do not understand something ask for clarification. Choose wisely the 'tist' you intend to allow into your unconscious.

A few "hypnofetishists" found one another on the net and formed some small chat groups and forums to promote and practice their kinks. The "HypnoScene" was born years ago, and is alive and well in Cyber Space. The Erotic Hypnosis fetish is growing very rapidly, gradually becoming more accepted into the mainstream, and with this reality more and more information and meeting places; and mediums have become available to discuss and partake in erotic trancing.

Chatrooms are scattered here and there, the topics and the tolerances vary from room to room. Different servers and clients have different protocols and procedures. Some formats have structure and control while others have no rules at all. As with most things, take what you like and leave what you don't. Chatrooms have different ambiance and tone depending on who operates them. Groups of like minded individuals form and reform all over the internet. Some Chatrooms and private Groups have themes or topics such as FemDom or Sleepy Fetish, and even Vampire rooms are known to play with Erotic Hypnosis.

Group Forums are also very prevalent and they too are centered around themes or ideal or specific kinks. Members can post messages and sometimes fascinating threads of conversation are created. Much can be learned by joining Erotic Hypnosis Groups.

Blogs are also becoming VERY popular and more and more of your average people are writing blogs. Bloggers also often read many other blogs and post comments to them. Blogging is a great way to meet people in a literary sense and express yourself and your curiosities that others can respond to.

Stating for the Record-- all Erotic Hypnosis subject matter and/or materials are intended only for legal adult entertainment, I highly recommend the site link listed as a wonderful starting point to meet others interested in, and often knowledgeable about erotic hypnosis. This is a special project of mine-- I welcome comments and ideas for new links, while at the same time I screen very carefully what is added. The links on our EroticHypnosis-Community Pages are real people, real businesses, and real practitioners of the BDSM lifestyle. Not all of our members are lifestylers but many are and a large part of our numbers enjoy practicing hypnotic trance in conjuction with various BDSM activities.

I appreciate WebMasters and Group Administrators that contact me, and do offer link exchange when appropriate. I invite the knowledgeable trancer or lifestyler to submit links to improve and diversify this site. And I welcome the Newbie that is still wondering... What IS Erotic Hypnosis?

For those of you wishing to know more about this Fetish.... Enjoy *smile*

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FAQ about Erotic Hypnosis

The most common questions I hear are:

1. What "IS" Erotic Hypnosis?

In simple terms: Erotic Hypnosis is a highly suggestable trance/altered state created with the intention of heightening and intensifying erotic experience, pleasure, and/or power exchange.

2. Does Hypnosis REALLY work or is it actually role-playing?

Yes, hypnosis does really work, but like almost anything else it's effectiveness and success has much to do with the particular individuals involved. Some people are natrually more suggestable than others, and Hypnotists have varying levels of skill and experience.

3. How can this possibly work online?

The same way it is possible in a real time encounter. The hypnotist talks in a voice client or types in a text chat format and guides the subject into a hypnotic state. First inducing hypnotic trance, then deepening the altered state, and finally making pertinent suggestions that have been agreed upon before the subject is brought out of the trance.

4. Text trances won't really work will they?

Usually textual hypnotic inductions will work on all but the most difficult of subjects; but are of course ALOT more work for the hypnotist. There is a skill to text trancing that is much different from merely speaking to the subject or "voice trancing" In this medium imagery comes into play alot to help the subject "see" in their mind's eye and does require skill and more effort and patience than other forms of hypnosis.

5. Hypnosis is Mind Control right?

NO!!!!! Contrary to popular belief Hypnosis and Mind Control/Brainwashing are NOT interchangeable terms. Please see this url: www.erotichypnosis-community.com/HypnoInfo.html for a more indepth definition and explanation.


I welcome more questions and comments to this post and wish E/everyone a Happy 2006!

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Online Power Exchange

The differences between real life encounters and online encounters are very few in some aspects.....VAST in others. I have done both, and I find the main difference I have experienced is that in real life encounters people tend to be more sure of their place and their goals in the D/s power exchange than the online counterparts. Many of the people you will meet online are new to the idea or 'exploring' striving to define where they fit in the scene, or things in the BDSM lifestyle they currently fail to grasp or understand. I try to be patient with such newbies as they need this time of exploration to determine what they will seek in a r/l encounter. Frustration can rise in online encounters with these people that are not sure where they fit, but to the veteran of power exchange I say, you have an opportunity to help a newbie find their way and be an advocate of our lifestyle; please don't put a bad foot forward. Also, A/anyone that is a veteran online BDSM'er is aware that there are many posers and dishonest sorts out there just looking for a 'sucker' and sadly, not the kind of sucker any lifestyler would wish to be. Call upon your experience to discern the difference and help where you can rather than further the stereo-type belief that we are all just asshole sexual deviants. If you are a seasoned net geek you know most of the in's & out's, and do's & don't's regarding meeting new P/people on the net.

For the newbie I offer kind words of encouragement to be honest about your needs and desires, even if that means you say, "I don't know where I fit or what I want". ALWAYS in any power exchange setting honesty is the BEST policy. Don't be ashamed to say you are new and you are still clueless. A/all of us were new at one time, that is just the reality of the situation. When you find people unwilling to answer your questions or address any concerns you might have, count yourself lucky you didn't play with such a person and move on with gratitude. When you find S/someone you connect to or click with well, be honest and tell them your feelings and thoughts when asked, don't hold back from being embarrassed about your kinks, fetishes or fantasies. How else will you ever get such desires or basic needs fulfilled if you are not up front about what they are? When you are confused or unsure just say so. You do not need to trust all at once to accomplish this and I do not suggest that you should. When meeting and getting to know prospective playmates trust a little at a time, as that trust is E-A-R-N-E-D [YES!!! EARNED]. Know that A/anyone expecting total trust and ultimate slavery or total control are not true lifestylers but rather abusers that hide behind the lifestyle lingo, and present a negative BDSM face to the vanilla world. When you encounter such people my advice is to move in the opposite direction rapidly but without fear. Remember you are an adult and conduct yourself so to the best of your ability whether Dominant or submissive. Any lifestyler that does not respect this during introduction times will never respect you later, and next to honesty TRUST & RESPECT are paramount in the success of any D/s encounter. Don't buy into the Dominant that shows you no respect because they consider you a slave. The Wisest Dom's give ultimate respect to their submissives and slaves. AND, FYI... they also apologize when they are wrong. Being dominant does not let one off the hook about being an adult. Dominants need to first and foremost be in control of themselves before they can ever hope to Dominate another in a healthy manner. If the Dom is not concerned about the well being of their sub or slave, again I say... they are not a lifestyler, they are abusive.

Remember: honesty, trust, respect... All are needed for healthy power exchange. When all else fails, go with your gut. Listens to your intuition and when your gut says, "avoid this situation", LISTEN!

In closing I must add, NEVER allow an online encounter to pressure you into a real life meeting. Meet people in r/t only after you feel you know them... and... when YOU are ready.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to A/all :)

Have a safe and Happy Holiday season no matter what you celebrate.

[was that politically correct enough?]

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Limits

Limits should always be brought forward VERY early in any BDSM negotiations. Boundaries are those 'limitations' we put on how far we are will to go with something. Often Limits are broken up into two sets, 'hard' limits & 'soft' limits. A hard limit is an area or an activity which is strictly "off limits" or, in no way EVER okay. Anyone that steps over a hard limit in anyway other than entirely by accident does not represent what BDSM stands for in any way whatsoever, and in my humble opinion... not a Dominant at all but rather an abuser. Soft limits on the other hand are areas or activities we might not have tried yet, perhaps we are not sure if they are something we would enjoy, maybe we have even fantasized about them and yet, not dared nor had opportunity to find out or explore to know for sure. Soft limits are often meant to be explored. For some, soft limits are areas or activities not enjoy...that will still be tolerated.

For those new to the concept of BDSM I encourage you to look honestly at what your limits are. Frequently newcomers truly do not know what or where their limits are, to these individuals I encourage you to seek only experienced Dominants to help you explore these areas. I believe a caring and experienced Dominant can help one find their place, and their limits in a safe and healthy manner. Such a Dominant will never become angry when a limit is discovered, but instead they will praise the submissive for having an honest heart and pleased they have discovered something new about themselves. Over time, especially in play with the same Dominant, as trust is built and developed, limits change. This is very common in BDSM, for as both parties come to know and trust one another, more is open to exploration.

I can not state strongly enough that a true and ethical Dom will NEVER disregard a hard limit... NEVER intentionally. Soft limits are sometimes pushed but this too, is usually attempted only after a solid foundation has been established in the D/s relationship. In this age of 'cyber space' we see many online communities of BDSM activity and of course since it can be quite anonymous - we also discover a lot of posers and abusers hiding behind Titles and honorifics of Sir and Ma'am and Master and Mistress. So to the newcomer, reason and wisdom are required. While the submissives role is to 'let go' of decision making and responsibility this should be done only AFTER much thought and discussion has been put into choosing a Dominant that is right for them, submissives do not get a complete 'pass' about responsibility; contrary to some popular cyber space legends. Submissives are accountable and responsible for who they choose to allow into their mind and give control of their body. Making sound choices does not make one a 'bad' or 'not a REAL' submissive. Intelligent submissives will hear these comments regularly online, from those impersonating Dominants in this lifestyle... so beware. Realize you are making a CRUCIAL decision.

The submissive that kow-tows to a Dominant and never asks questions, never checks or interviews a Dominant before giving over control, is often referenced to as 'doormat' submissive, and in my humblest opinion... is also impersonating or misrepresenting the submissive side of this lifestyle; and oft times is vunerable to predatory types. Such individuals have no boundaries to begin with which makes them even less capable of making wise choices in who will be controlling them. Sometimes, a submissive will come to a place of trust in their Dominant and the relationship evolves into Master/slave. Such relationships are usually developed overtime and not made overnight. There is no comparison as I see this scenarios, one is a submissive making a choice to become a slave to their One. This happens only after time and trust been earned...yes, EARNED.. Instantly giving up control without reservation or limits is not the sign of a well adjusted, emotionally sound adult.

Comments A/anyone?

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